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A book review: “Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman: Dispelling 10 Common Myths” by Allison K. Flexer November 3, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — meaganlwilliford @ 3:52 pm


There are numerous books on the market about being single and dating. “Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman: Dispelling 10 Common Myths” by Allison K. Flexer is without a doubt the best one on this topic I have ever read. I have told all of my single friends how good the book is and that they must read it! I would love to get a small group discussion together for the book.

“Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman: Dispelling 10 Common Myths” is awesome because it doesn’t give you a list of things to do to “catch a man” or tell you to dress a certain way, or act a certain way, or go to a certain place. (Ever read those horrible dating advice articles about meeting your significant other at a grocery store/hardware store/dog park, etc.)? This book doesn’t give a formula for how to date nor does it focus on dating advice. Instead, it brings to light common lies every single person, man or woman, has either thought to themselves or talked about with their friends. As I was reading, I was highlighting sentences like crazy because I wanted to remember everything Allison was saying! I also enjoyed that she included opinions from single men. It was interesting to see what they had to say.

Some of the chapters I felt like Allison wrote especially for me were Lie #1: Because no one has chosen me, I’m not valuable; Lie #2: God has forgotten about me; Lie # 5: I’m not beautiful; Lie # 7: There is something wrong with me; and Lie #8: The church values married people more than me. In each chapter, Allison pinpoints the lie. She shares stories from her personal experiences, and she interviews other singles whose stories she includes, as well. She applies scripture to show us the truth God gives us to combat the lies. Then she emphasizes different character traits of God, such our Provider, Hope, and Redeemer. In bulleted points at the end of each chapter, she once again brings the lie to light and shows us what women who believe this lie often say. Then, she tells us the truth of what God says and gives us a list of scripture we can take to heart to battle these lies.

My favorite chapter focused on Lie #7: There is something wrong with me. As I read, I realized that I have said or thought these sentiments. It was almost as if I had talked to Allison because she knew exactly how I was feeling. Some of my favorite quotes from this chapter included:

“In the midst of difficult circumstances, Ruth showed loyalty to Naomi, faith in God’s plan, and enormous courage. It is possible that God will also provide the same courage, determination, and faith for your specific journey? Is it feasible that there’s really nothing wrong with you, but instead, that God has placed you in this place for a purpose, one that only you can accomplish? Even if we don’t fully understand what God is doing, we need to trust his heart-trust that he truly loves us and doesn’t see us as less important. ” The truth in this chapter says “You have been made by God for a purpose. Your loving Father will equip you with everything you need along the way.” I also love the description in this chapter of God as our Abba, our Papa.

Although this book is written with singles in mind, I would wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone. Over and over again, “Truth, Lies, and the Single Woman: Dispelling 10 Common Myths” emphasizes that God loves us unconditionally, eternally, no matter what and desires a relationship with us. Nothing besides a personal relationship with God can fill the void we have in our lives. Whether married or single, everyone can relate to this truth.

I received a copy of this book through NetGalley for my honest, unbiased opinion.


Qualities in good friends February 14, 2013

Filed under: Uncategorized — meaganlwilliford @ 10:41 pm

Wow. It’s been a long time since I have written a blog post! Today is Valentine’s Day or Singles Awareness Day as it’s called. I have never been a big fan of this day, even though every year since college I have had a great time hanging out with friends, going out to dinner and watching movies. As a single person I still do struggle with not being bitter about the overblown display of hearts, candy, and stuffed animals that bombard you every time you enter a store around this time of the year. Is is really necessary to have five aisles of Valentine’s stuff? Seriously?

This year, I have decided to focus on the amazing family and friends God has blessed me with. I have a lot of love in my life even though I am not dating someone.

Lately I have been thinking a lot about how thankful I am for my awesome friendships. I truly believe God has put these people in my life, and I am so thankful for them. Friends who are older, friends who are younger, guy friends, girl friends, single friends, married friends, friends from church, friends I just happened to meet—they all have a special place in my heart. I know my life is much richer because of these friendships, and I am so grateful. Having these relationships in my life makes me think about the qualities that make a good friend. These are qualities I have found in my friends and hope I have exhibited in return.

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Friendship Qualities

Good friends love you for who you are, but they continuously push you to become a better person.

Good friends laugh and cry with you.

Good friends will call you out when you need it.

Good friends listen and offer advice. Sometimes they just listen.

Good friends encourage you.

Good friends always tell you the truth.

Good friends hold you accountable.

Good friends are always there for you, no matter what.

Good friends enjoy just hanging out and spending time with you.

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There are been some pretty great quotes written about friendship. Below are a few of my favorites.

Great Friendship Quotes

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” C. S. Lewis

“There’s nothing better than a good friend, except a good friend with chocolate.” -Linda Grayson

“A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.” Elbert Hubbard

“You can always tell a real friend: when you’ve made a fool of yourself he doesn’t feel you’ve done a permanent job.” Laurence J. Peter

“Friendship… is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”  Muhammad Ali

“I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun.”  Charles Swindoll

“The only way to have a friend is to be one.” Ralph Waldo Emerson


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10 Things You Might Not know About Me December 12, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — meaganlwilliford @ 8:57 pm
  1. I am the oldest of three kids.

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2. This summer, I auditioned to be on Wheel of Fortune with my sister.

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3. I first read Pride and Prejudice when I was a senior in high school and have loved the book ever since.

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4. I have visited France, England, Ireland, and Wales.

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5. I was the salutatorian of my graduating class in high school.

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6. When I was at Barton College, I was Editor in Chief of the student newspaper and worked at the Writing Center.

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7. I started wearing glasses in the second grade and contacts in the ninth.

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8. I have seen the musical Wicked twice and think it’s awesome. I want to see it again!

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9. I really like doing art and craft projects.

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10. I went on a missions trip to Canada the summer after my junior year in high school.

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Scrabble competitions December 10, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — meaganlwilliford @ 10:30 pm

As long as I can remember, in my family, the board game Scrabble has been a big deal. When I was little, my parents, grandma, aunts, and whoever else wanted to play a game of Scrabble would let me sit with them at the kitchen table and arrange the tiles. Thus began my love of Scrabble. As I grew older, they taught me the rules of the game. We take Scrabble with us everywhere, on trips, and play on holidays, as well. For me, the best Scrabble matches take place on normal days when we are just sitting around the house. The competition gets pretty fierce during these games. The battle ensues as we all try to score the most points. Since we are a competitive bunch, our games are usually pretty spirited. My sister and I are particularly competitive with each other, especially as we strive in every game to use all of our tiles during one turn for an extra 50 points. This is called a Bingo! Sometimes we even post the highest score on the fridge. One time my mom and I kept switching the posted scorecards. She, of course, wanted to display her high score, and I wanted to post the score from the game I had won. One time we read somewhere about learning Scrabble words but not knowing their meanings. The writer of the article said it was a waste of brain space!


As I become older, I really appreciate the time my family has bonded and hung out around board games, especially Scrabble. In my house, we also enjoy playing Monopoly, Trouble, Guess Who?, Rook, Scattergories, Uno, Life, Cranium, and most recently Blurt! Playing these board games together allows us the chance to have fun, challenge our minds, and just spend time with each other. I am so thankful for the memories I have and continue to make while playing various board games. This is definitely a tradition I plan to continue in the future when I have kids of my own someday.


Fun Facts About Scrabble

  • The creator of Scrabble, Alfred Butts, first named the board game Lexiko in 1938. He later renamed the game Criss-Crosswords, using crosswords from The New York Times as his inspiration.
  • The game was not successful until 1948 when James Brunot bought the rights to sell it and renamed the game Scrabble.
  • Jack Straus, president of Macy’s, made Scrabble popular in 1952 when he enjoyed playing the game and decided he wanted his store to carry it.
  • From 1984 to 1990, Scrabble was a game show on NBC, hosted by Chuck Woolery.
  • A Scrabble game includes 100 letters, and two of those are blanks, which can represent any letter you want them to.
  • The tiles with the highest point values are the Q and Z, which are both worth 10 points.

Learning from disappointment December 7, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — meaganlwilliford @ 9:39 pm

One of the most difficult things I have discovered in my 26 years is how to learn from disappointments that occur in my life. A few years ago a good friend told me, “Meagan, I know this hurt you, but tell me what you learned from it. Make a list and share it with me.” This particular instance was pretty painful, so my initial reaction was not to think about what the experience taught me. Instead, I just felt profound sadness that the situation had not ended up the way I thought it would. I didn’t want to think about the good that might come from it.

As I become older, I have started to learn that within disappointment there are lessons to be learned. Believe me, this isn’t a conclusion I came up with overnight. It has taken me awhile to realize this, and many times I forget to look for the good and go straight to how awful the disappointment made me feel. I am trying, though, to consider when something doesn’t turn out as I wished it would, what did I learn about myself from this? Did I react in a way I shouldn’t have? Is this something I can work on?

I also think about what God is teaching me through various occurrences in my life. This point goes back to an earlier post where I mentioned my tendency to focus on one situation at a time, but God always sees the big picture. So, while something might be disappointing to me now, later on down the road, I might understand why it didn’t work out. I can see that God was always working in my life, even if the outcome of a situation was different than I hoped. Jeremiah 29:11 is one of my all-time favorite Bible verses. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Through my disappointments, I must remember that God does have a plan, and He loves me. I must always trust Him, especially when I don’t understand the plan. He has my best interests at heart and wants me to “prosper,” as the verse says.

When reflecting on past disappointment, I see one of the ways that God has helped me through these tough times is to bring wonderful people into my life. I can think of countless times in undergrad, grad school, moving to a new place where I didn’t know anyone, etc., when I felt lonely and friendless. EVERY SINGLE TIME, God brought a friend into my life to help me through it. Every time. I am also blessed to have an amazing and supportive family that has always been there for me. Through these difficult seasons, God has given me the gift of awesome people who have had and continue to have lasting impacts on my life.

One way I have been able to see disappointment in a new light is to change my perspective. Considering situations from different angles may bring up other issues I wouldn’t have thought of on my own. Talking to my family and friends about situations I am going through helps me gain these new perspectives. While listening to other individuals’ thoughts on a subject, I am able to consider certain aspects of a situation I may have overlooked.

The next time disappointment gets you down, take a minute to think about what you learned from the situation. Reflect on how the experience can help you move forward and become the person God created you to be.


Bucket list December 6, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — meaganlwilliford @ 9:39 pm

A few years ago, I watched the movie “The Bucket List” with two of my best friends, Meredith and Becca. The two main characters Edward Cole and Carter Chambers, played by Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, both have cancer and are in the hospital receiving chemo treatments. By chance, they are roommates in the hospital.

After awhile, the two men become friends. They share a common bond in the fact that they both think their lives have gone by too quickly. Soon, they both discover they each have less than a year to live. As soon as they receive this sad news, Freeman’s character starts a bucket list, where he writes down things he had always wanted to do but never had the chance to complete. Nicholson’s character finds the list and adds his own thoughts. Their list includes witnessing something truly majestic, helping a complete stranger for a common good, laughing until they cried, driving a Shelby mustang, getting a tattoo, skydiving, seeing the pyramids, visiting, Rome, and getting back in touch with a daughter.

Despite the fact they both have terminal illnesses, the two men lead very different lifestyles. Freeman’s character is a mechanic and a family man whose wife worries about him. Nicholson’s character is a billionaire playboy who is estranged from his daughter. Once they complete the list, the men begin to travel and try to accomplish everything they always wanted to do. Needless to say, by the end of the movie, they checked everything off the list.

I thought the movie was sad, but in a good way, if that makes any sense. This movie is the kind that made me think. It showed me just how short life is and that I must live it to the fullest. This movie also inspired me to create my own bucket list, which I have been adding to over the years. I thought I would share a few of the items. Does anyone else out there have a bucket list? If so, what’s on it?

  1. Be on Wheel of Fortune
  2. Write a children’s book
  3. Go to Australia
  4. Adopt a puppy from the pound
  5. See the Northern Lights
  6. Be the voice of a cartoon character
  7. Open a bookstore with my sister
  8. Learn to ski
  9. Go for a ride in a hot air balloon
  10. Get laser eye surgery
  11. Live at the beach
  12. Learn to ballroom dance
  13. Be an extra in a film
  14. Go to Hawaii
  15. Go to Greece

Center of it December 5, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — meaganlwilliford @ 7:30 pm

Every time I hear the song “Center of It” by Chris August, I am reminded that God is always with me, no matter what I am going through.  Many days it does feel like no matter what you do, nothing goes right. One of my favorite lines in the song says, “You are still the same.” It is very comforting that although everything around me is unchanging and uncertain, God does not change. He is steady and true. The chorus is also one of my favorite parts of the song:


In the dark, in the light
In the morning and night
In the good, in the hurt
In the places I hide
When I rise, when I fall
You’ll be there through it all
At the start, at the end
In the center of the center of it

To me, this chorus shows that no matter where you are in life, God can reach you there. He does not abandon us. Listening to these words brings Romans 8:38-39 to mind. “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

One of the aspects I really appreciate about this song is the pure honesty behind it. The lyrics express a worry and uncertainty and a wondering if God is still going to be there, no matter what happens. And despite this worry, faith in God still shines through. Even though things in our lives don’t seem to be working out, we are disappointed, and “doors are closing,” we still must trust Him. This reminds me of a sermon I heard once where the preacher said that many times people are focused on the here and now, but God knows the big picture because He can see everything. So, although we may feel like nothing is happening, God is in fact working in our lives.

Another line that gets to me is “You are all I need.” I want this to be true of my relationship with Christ, but honestly many times I get distracted and focus on other things in life besides Him. Lines like this remind me that I should be focusing on Him as the number one priority in my life. This line also reminds me of the Tenth Avenue North song “By Your Side.” I still remember the first time I heard the lines “Why are you still looking for love? Why are you still searching as if I’m not enough?” I felt so convicted. Why indeed?


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